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Monk Notes 09 - On How to Achieve Any Goal

With enough energy and focus you can achieve any goal.

Here are the three simple steps to success:

 

Step 1: Clearly define your goal.

Step 2: Break down the steps necessary to accomplish your goal.

Step 3: Direct all your energy, focus, and time towards achieving your goal. Don’t let anything get in your way, and be prepared to sacrifice anything and everything to ensure you achieve your goal.

 

If it seems simple, that’s because it is. If you follow this method, I am certain you will have a remarkably high likelihood of progressing rapidly towards said goal.

Not to say that you should.

In fact, I would recommend avoiding this approach to life at all costs.
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In life, it’s far too easy to lie to ourselves.

We do it all the time. We tell ourselves we want one thing, when in fact we really want something quite different.

For example, if you were to write down of a list of what our cultural image of success looks like, you would probably come up with a list similar to this:

Successful people are...

  • Beautiful, fit, attractive

  • Wealthy, self sustaining, and independent

  • Powerful and willful

  • Intelligent and influential

But really, no one is born with a sense that success means any of these things. Few people carry these ideas into their late years, either. There seems to be a large block of time in the middle of our lives where we seem to fall asleep and forget what it is we really want. Our modern conception of success is learned, not inherent.

It’s a tragedy that many of us only awake to our true desires at the beginning and end of life. We as a culture have lied to ourselves about what’s valuable and worthwhile in life. And while we would love to say, “No, not me,” it’s unlikely you haven’t also bought in, at least on some level.

I know I certainly have. I talk to my wife about it all the time.

I’m deeply concerned about selling what my life could be for a cheaper imitation of itself, just because it may make me look better or make me feel more important. The cost of one version of success usually comes at the cost of another. And when the stakes are one’s own life - the costs can be very high.

One of the reasons I’m so passionate about the work of the Monk Manual is because it’s deeply personal for me. The battle for full(er) living is my personal battle. I often feel like I’m fighting for my life, because in many ways I am.

There is a tremendous danger when we optimize our lives around goals and pursuits at the expense  of the things we really want and know are best for us. We have the capacity not only to sacrifice higher goods for lesser goods for sustained periods of time, but also to feel great about it because the world is telling us we are “successful.” We follow the lead of those around us, and often that lead misleads.

Once you start playing the success game, it’s easy to get lost in it.

That is why focusing on the wrong goals is one of the greatest barriers to a full life.

What’s the solution? 

I believe it’s reflection and honesty.

It’s about actually taking the time to pause and say — enough is enough, time for a change. Time to reassess, course correct, and do some real soul searching. 

It’s been my experience that we tend to only reexamine our lives and priorities following a massive change or loss. I’ve often wondered why it takes a sickness, the loss of a job or loved one, or “hitting rock bottom” that tends to reorient people - and more importantly if it is possible for us to reorient ourselves earlier in life, and more frequently, by stepping back to see the bigger picture. Is it possible for us to choose what is best, right now, if we can just pause, take the time to reassess, and then begin again? If yes - how valuable could this practice be?

Over the past few months I’ve been working on a yearly planning process called “You Are Here: a Year of Being and Becoming.”

I created this process because I saw a danger in preexisting yearly planning models that center on focus and optimization but leave out the need for interior recollection and discernment.  

This process is different: it is designed first and foremost to create alignment. To help you understand what it is you really want, and then to allow your yearly goals and activities to flow from your deeper desires.

At the end of the day, I just want to live a full(er) life, and I want that for you as well.

You can download the process below. We are offering it for free because we think it’s important to be shared. 

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Thanks for making this another great year.

All the best,
Steven Lawson

“We discovered that education is not something which the teacher does, but that it is a natural process which develops spontaneously in the human being.” - Maria Montessori

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